How I almost got deflowered by a gay friend!
For memories sake, who would forget their first sexual encounter? Nearly to every heterosexual man it is a blissful memory, one would split your face into a grin. Unlike men, ladies have awful memories of excruciating pain they underwent during that first penetration: breaking of virginity or deflowering.
As a man, straight to the core and without prejudices to the LGBTQ fellows, I have never thought of penetration from the back, like I am virgin still, and would like to stay that way. Being hetero you all know my attraction is only to the ladies, so the other day, I got off work a little bit late at 9.30pm to be exact, trying to get a few sales before calling it a day. I decided to go home, shower, get food and clear my pallatte with some gin I had from last Sunday.
Stepping out of shower, my phone rings and its a certain gay guy friend I've known on these streets since 2018, we've interacted many couple of times but never met in real life.He has always known I'm straight AF and I'm a lover of peaches and not eggplants as compared to him. Well, I'm an LGBT+ ally and I love (platonically) gay people as I would love anyone else just as Jesus Christ loves us (sic).
He sounds drunk on the phone and asks to come over to my place coz he's around and he'd love to drop by to say Hi. First red flag. I direct him to where he is to alight at so that I can pick him and show him my place of work and my home. Well, he gets dropped at a different stage and now I have to redirect him. He finally comes to the stage where I'm patiently waiting for him. He is super drunk; he's got a tumbler of keg in one hand and a pack of cigarettes on the other.Second red flag. He passes the tumbler to me but I don't drink it because I got some liquor at my house.
Earlier while we were communicating, he kept saying,"wow, you are such a beautiful voice, though my boyfriend an fight you! " Third red flag though I appreciate his compliment. So I show him my stall where I operate from and proceed to show him my house coz they are relatively close. Dumb move! Because now I am a little nervous of having a complete stranger in my house, I decided to light a blunt to calm my nerves while he lights a cigarette in my house!
It's the audacity for me! I am asthmatic and how dare he!? Holding it together, I open my windows and the door then go to the balcony to smoke my blunt. He follows me, starts coming on to me, touching my waist like we couples and shit! Another red flag....he got lucky I'm no longer violent like I was way back, I would have thrown him from the first floor. He tells me he's had an argument with his man and he's also not in good terms with his mother either, so he needs a place to cool off for a while, ati his designs at work were rejected bro, a girl broke up with me over a text, I got denied to work at my dream job but you didn't see me drinking myself shitless and moving around causing trouble!
I inquired wheather he has had food to eat coz I do not want him puking all over my place and most importantly my bed, he insists he's okay and we should sleep...bruh I went sicko mode! At this point I am super mad and want him off my back! I threaten him and now I got to use a different tone to get to him. Dude was already in bed with his dirty socks on! Reluctantly he gets up, its now past curfew hours, I take him to the stage, I'm drunk and high oh and hungry too, I'm not sure if he really got a mat but I remember seeing one stopping. I was trying get back home before the police start their after curfew night patrol.
That night I made sure all windows and doors were locked with the key by my bedside. I slept hungry and high but I thank God I was able to de-escalate the situation quickly. He texts the next morning ati he hopes he wasn't much trouble last night!? Bro you wanted f*ck me without my consent!
Personally, if you are not my family, girlfriend or my inner circle, I would prefer meeting out there and not past 9pm, I learnt my lesson! I'm done with y'all tryna deflower me! I felt hopeless and I even at one point contemplated bashing the gin bottle on his head when he touched me, eeew!
Respectfully, learn to deal with your own issues instead of trying to take advantage of your friends and seeking pity from them! Let's strive to our friends and their interests their sexuality and respect them without judgement also personal space; take no for a no and yes for yes, don't be a nuisance invading your way where it's not permitted.